Here are some quotes from the book “Victims and Victors” About pregnancy from rape.
“After my daughter was born, it was love at first sight … I know I made the right decision in having her.” -Nancy “Cole”
“Often I cry. Cry because I could not stop the attacks. Cry because my daughter is dead. And I cry because it still hurts.” -Edith Young
“I think that rape victims with pregnancies are discriminated against because people seem to think you’re nuts to have a baby by a man who raped you. We are looked upon as being liars, or stupid.” -Sharon “Bailey”
“They say abortion is the easy way out, the best thing for everyone, but they are wrong. It has been over 15 years, and I still suffer.” -”Rebecca Morris”
“I thank God for the strength He gave me to go through the bad times and for all of the joy in the good times. I will never regret that I chose to give life to my daughter.” -Mary Murray
“Abortion does not help or solve a problem-it only compounds and creates another trauma for the already grieving victim by taking away the one thing that can bring joy.” -Helene Evans
“The effects of the abortion are much more far-reaching than the effects of the rape in my life.” -”Patricia Ryan”
“I, having lived through rape, and having raised a child ‘conceived in rape,’ feel personally assaulted and insulted every time I hear that abortion should be legal for rape and incest. I feel that we’re being used to further the abortion issue, even though we’ve not been asked to tell our side of the story.” -Kathleen DeZeeuw
These women are in fragile states and need love, care and guidance. Abortion is not the cure all solution, it is an invasive and often painful surgical procedure that adds to the trauma of what just happened to them. The solution is counseling, and provisions. To assume that young girls, and any girl that conceives from rape is an insult.
my mother tells me
that when i meet someone i like,
i have to ask them three questions:
1. what are you afraid of?
2. do you like dogs?
3. what do you do when it rains?
of those three, she says the first one is the most important.
“they gotta be scared of something, baby. everybody is. if they aren’t afraid of anything, then they don’t believe in anything, either.”
i met you on a sunday, right
one look and my heart fell into
my stomach like a trap door.
on our second date,
i asked you what you were afraid of.
“spiders, mostly. being alone. little children, like, the ones who just learned how to push a kid over on the playground. oh and space. holy shit, space.”
i asked you if you liked dogs.
“i have three.”
i asked you what you do when it rains.
“sleep, mostly. sometimes i sit at the window and watch the rain droplets race. i make a shelter out of plastic in my backyard for all the stray animals; leave them food and a place to sleep.”
he smiled like he knew.
like his mom told him the same
“how about you?”
i’m scared of everything.
of the hole in the o-zone layer,
of the lady next door who never
smiles at her dog,
and especially of all the secrets
the government must be breaking
it’s back trying to keep from us.
i love dogs so much, you have no idea.
i sleep when it rains.
i want to tell everyone i love them.
i want to find every stray animal and bring them home.
i want to wake up in your hair
and make you shitty coffee
and kiss your neck
and draw silly stick figures of us.
i never want to ask anyone else